Since I became a father, just 6 months ago, I have noticed a strange transformation. On the one hand, as I expected, I have become less selfish. Or less self-centered. It's not about me and what I want anymore: my wife and son come first. Instead of saving for my next travel adventure, I'm saving for my son's education. I go to the mall- not to sit in Starbucks, as I used to, but to buy diapers. Most of my plans and dreams are now about my son's future, not my own.
On the other hand, I have become more selfish. When my student or colleague is coughing, instead of sympathizing: "Oh, do you have a cold? I'm so sorry." I shy away from him or her, thinking I don't want to get a virus that I'll take home to my son. I don't give as often to homeless people, or loan money to friends, because I want to save that money for my own family.
Have I become a worse person, or a better one? I don't want to set a bad example for my son, so for his sake I'll try to be more generous and think of others outside my family. But my family comes first.